Diane Coffee Disseccts Parasitic Relationships In “Not Ready To Go”

It’s complicated

Photo: Alexa Viscius

Diane Coffee, the solo project of Shaun Fleming, breaks down the bizarre and multi-layered bond we have with someone toxic in new video “Not Ready To Go.” With his magnetic glass-cutting vocals, Diane breaks down the fear, guilt and identity crisis that binds us to the wrong person. Created by Joe Baughman, the video choreographically captures the spiraling emotional madness of such parasitic relationship while keeping it smooth with its slow-burning groove. Watch below:

“There’s no better way to explain ‘Not Ready To Go’ than a quote from world renowned negotiation expert Daniel L. Shapiro: ‘This is our drive to cling to an identity with which we are familiar, even if it is dysfunctional and personally damaging,'” says Fleming. “We have all had a version of this struggle, so I wanted to open a forum, a safe place for the discussion of guilt, shame, and for not knowing how to leave a toxic situation. I find it’s like I am observing myself within the relationship but can’t quite move my physical self out of the ‘repetition compulsion’ because the emotional ties are too strong. Fear of the unknown, isolation, dependency, and a feeling of deserving all keep us from breaking free of what is poisoning us. It’s so easy for the observer to think, ‘It’s their choice,’ but all our traumas and all the reinforcements make it very difficult to see how you found yourself in these loops and how to stop them. I hope the conversation can be constructive as well, shifting to how to find the strength to step out of a bad cycle and how to recover from the trauma.” shared Diane.

“Not Ready To Go” is from Diane’s upcoming album Internet Arms, which will be out on April 19thvia Polyviny. He will also start touring that month, so don’t miss him:

04/24 – Chicago, IL @ Schubas

04/25 – Bloomington, IN @ The Bishop

05/09 – Columbus, OH @ Rumba Cafe #

05/10 – Washington, DC @ DC9 #

05/11 – Philadelphia, PA @ Johnny Brenda’s #%

05/14 – New York, NY @ Bowery Ballroom #%

05/15 – Boston, MA @ Sonia #%

05/16 – Montreal, QC @ Bar Le Ritz #%

05/17 – Toronto, ON @ The Garrison #%

05/18 – Detroit, MI @ Deluxx Fluxx #%

05/31 – Milwaukee, WI @ Colectivo

06/01 – Minneapolis, MN @ 7th St. Entry

06/02 – Omaha, NE @ Slowdown – Front Room

06/05 – Seattle, WA @ Barboza

06/07 – Portland, OR @ Doug Fir Lounge

06/08 – Vancouver, BC @ Wise Hall

06/11 – San Francisco, CA @ The Independent

06/13 – Santa Ana, CA @ Constellation Room

06/14 – Los Angeles, CA @ Teragram Ballroom

06/15 – San Diego, CA @ The Casbah

06/16 – Phoenix, AZ @ Valley Bar

06/18 – Denver, CO @ Globe Hall

06/20 – Kansas City, MO@ recordBar

06/21 – St. Louis, MO @ Off Broadway

06/22 – Indianapolis, IN @ Hi-Fi

06/28 – Davenport, IA @ Racoon Motel

06/29 – Macomb, IL @ Heritage Days

# w/ Active Bird Community

% w/ Jackie Mendoza