CHVRCHES Slaughter Gender Expectations In New Single “He Said She Said”


Photo: Sebastian Mlynarski & Kevin J Thomson

CHVRCHES return with new smashing single “He Said She Said” where they defy the outdated gender expectations that are set on women. Burgeoning with confidence and self-love, “He Said She Said” is a euphoric midfinger to established gender notions that have haunted humanity since the beginning of time. With her flawless high pitch, frontwoman Mayberry slaughters the toxic narratives built around the female gender and delivers her own self-empowering narrative over an explosive yet introspective melody: 

“Like everyone, I’ve had a lot of time to think and reflect over the past year; to examine experiences I had previously glossed over or deeply buried. I feel like I have spent a lot of my life (personally and professionally) performing the uncomfortable balancing act that is expected of women and it gets more confusing and exhausting the older I get,” explained Mayberry.

“Be successful but only in the way we want you to be. Speak up for yourself but not so loudly that you steal men’s thunder. Be attractive but only for the benefit of men, and certainly don’t be vain. Strive to be The Hot Sad Girl but don’t actually be sad in a way that’s inconvenient for anyone. Be smart but not smart enough to ask for more than what you’re being given.”

Mayberry continued: “‘He Said She Said’ is my way of reckoning with things I’ve accepted that I know I shouldn’t have. Things I pretended weren’t damaging to me. It was the first song we wrote when we started back up, and the opening line (‘He said, You bore me to death’) was the first lyric that came out. All the verse lines are tongue-in-cheek or paraphrased versions of things that have actually been said to me by men in my life. Being a woman is fucking exhausting and it felt better to scream it into a pop song than scream it into the void. After the past year, I think we can all relate to feeling like we’re losing our minds.”

Like many bands, CHVRCHES were also separated by the pandemic – Mayberry and Doherty ended up quarantining in LA whereas Cook in Glasgow. But this didn’t stop the trio from songsmithing and after a gazillion video calls and audio sharing programs, they ended up crafting bangers like “He Said She Said.” Expect to hear more from the three this year.